Exploring sex toys as a couple will add a new dimension to intimacy. Not only is this a great way to improve communication and explore new likes, dildos give you an opportunity to intensify erotic experiences and enjoy much more satisfaction.
To get started, you need some basic understanding of dildos and the features that make a certain item the right pick for you. Here’s what you need to keep in mind when attempting some sexy dildo shopping for the first time together.
Decide How You’re Going to Be Using a Dildo
Most dildos can be used in two ways – as a handheld toy or as a strap-on. If the second option is the one that interests you more, you’ll also need to seek a good harness for your dildo.
Handheld dildos can be incorporated in all kinds of penetrative experiences. Some of them also have a suction cup base, allowing for hands-free fun and the exploration of multiple sexual positions.
Harness strap-ons have a couple of uses. They’re a great choice for pegging and role reversal. A specialized strap-on harness can also be incorporated in a double penetration fantasy. Some special harness dildos are a great choice for men seeking some sexual enhancement or for those in need of a tool to combat erectile dysfunction.
Knowing exactly how you intend to be using the dildo most of the time will simplify the process of choosing the right design and the best material.
Materials and Special Features
We’re now moving on to the more interesting facets of dildo buying.
The material a dildo is made of will determine user-friendliness and ease of cleaning. Many people prefer medical-grade silicone because it’s incredibly body-safe and it’s also somewhat flexible. Silicone is super versatile and it can be used to craft all kinds of dildos – from beginner-friendly five-inch toys to massive and impressive black dildos.
Other safe materials include glass and stainless steel. They’re a lot heftier than silicone and the weight adds to the uniqueness of the penetrative experience. Glass and stainless steel can also be heated or cooled down, turning them into the perfect materials for temperature play exploration.
People who seek realistic dildos will come across thermoplastics like TPE and TPR. While considered body-safe, these materials are somewhat porous. If you intend to get such a dildo because of its lifelike properties, consider using it with a condom for maximum hygiene and safety.
Apart from the material, pay attention to the special features. Regular dildos resemble an actual penis but alternatives do exist. You’ll find both vibrating and thrusting dildos – an excellent choice for the people who need more stimulation. The market also features hollow and even ejaculating dildos to add a layer of unparallelled realism to a sexual experience.
Start Playing
Now that you have a new dildo, it’s time to start playing. Before you do that, discuss a few essentials.
Set some boundaries pertaining to sex toy play. How will you use the dildo? Will it be a go-to tool for all kinds of penetration? Are you going to try pegging and prostate stimulation during role reversal? Would you be open to exploring double penetration and threesome fantasies using the dildo?
Knowing well in advance what’s desirable and what’s not ok in the bedroom will create the safe atmosphere that both of you need to relax and completely enjoy the moment.
The next essential is to take it slow. Good sex toy use happens when both of you are properly aroused. Lots of foreplay should precede the actual penetration. Also, make sure you have enough lube – some dildo materials can “suck” the lube and require frequent reapplications.
Understand that a dildo isn’t the same as a body part, no matter how flesh-like the material is. You will need to take things very slow, especially in the beginning. Don’t be afraid of experimenting with different positions and penetration angles. They will make a massive difference as far as hitting the right spots is concerned.
Don’t Forget to Take Good Care of Your Sex Toys
This final tip is a bit mundane but it’s an absolute essential if you’d like to enjoy safe sex toy use for many years to come.
A dildo should be cleaned thoroughly after every single use. The way you clean depends on the material the dildo is made of. A waterproof silicone or glass dildo, for example, can be boiled and sterilized to get rid of bacteria and germs. Materials like thermoplastics are usually waterproof (do check the specifications) but most of them can’t be boiled.
Always let your dildos air dry completely before storing them away. For the safest storage, put in an individual pouch before placing the dildo in a sex toy box. Some materials can’t be touching other sex toys, otherwise they will start disintegrating.
In time, you can continue building your sex toy collection. Play with dildos will be really satisfying and liberating if both of you are on the same page. A basic model will enable so much additional fun. When you’re ready, you can also move on to the selection of more specialized dildos that will open up a whole new world of sexual opportunity.